My husband and I have honestly been feeling a little overwhelmed since the time my mom left for India and it came back to me handling things again. My husband works full time and since it’s “work from home”, he ends up doing a lot of “work of home”. I’m not glorifying this since this is his home too, so sharing equal responsibilities is absolutely okay. I salute working moms who take care of kids and work full time. I don’t think I can ever do it!
I have told you before, how my stroke left me with short term memory loss and that is why most of the time me, doing my part ends up being more work for my husband. For instance, yesterday I made coffee for myself and then made a cup for my husband too . I felt happy that I remembered this small gesture like old times. But by the time I handed him the coffee and came back to the kitchen I forgot all about the coffee maker. And so obviously, I didn’t rinse the used coffee powder off and when my husband found it later, It was a dry mess. Now should my husband be thankful for the coffee or be upset about the mess? His wife is an emotional wreck who feels sad the moment he even sighs! Tough situation right? But I’m sure it’s familiar!
All of us would have at least once tried to do something good in life and it fell flat. This is like the story of my life.. happens to me everyday! And our common response to this is frustration. We get frustrated at why things are not going our way. At that moment we don’t feel like thinking “this is just a bad day”, what we think instead is “this is a bad life”, “it always happens to me”, “when will things ever change”. We get caught up in this cycle of bad thoughts and bad days because our thoughts manifest our days, remember?
Oh! Why does life have to be so complicated?! You know, I sometimes simply want to act out, shout, cry, shriek when I’m frustrated. This is not a bad thing you know. Cry if you must, but just remember to get back to being the awesome you! Awesome people are not escapists and awesome people are definitely not whiners, they are winners.
It’s the law of nature, nothing grows or blooms all year long, so why should we? It’s okay to feel like a loser one day and a winner the other. The most important thing is we always understand that in the end, it’s all going to be okay!
Kinda like the song ‘my favorite things’ from Sound of Music. “When the dog bites, when the bee stings, when I’m feeling sad, I simply remember my favorite things and then I don’t feel so bad!”
I’ll tell you a trick that works for me: When we feel upset or frustrated, go to a quiet place, close your eyes and inhale and exhale deeply. Then start picturizing your happy thoughts while continuing the breathing and also picturize how you actually want your present situation to change. Visualize the outcome you desire and see the wonders.
This is not really logical. But some things simply don’t need to be logical, they are just plain magical!
My son has a very overactive imagination and I encourage it. So it wasn’t a surprise when yesterday he wrote a passage in “free flow writing” about Knuckles. He wrote (and I quote), “Knuckles is a soft furred joy. He smiles when he is happy and only I can see it. His smile is like a cup of hot chocolate!” Weird metaphor but who cares right? It’s all about how you want to picturize your thoughts!
So relax and breathe and believe me, everything’s going to be okay.
I'll leave you with a picture as food for thought :)